A Lesbian's Guide to Dating Someone New During the Holidays

The first thing you must understand is that timeinto someone you've been dating for three years.
is limited during the holidays for everyone. YouGetting to know someone simply takes time. Do
must acknowledge that most women have lessnot force the relationship to become something
time to date during the holidays than at otherthat it is not meant to be because you are lonely
times of the year, and so finding someone mayduring the holiday season. We all know that part
take more time. This is especially true if you haveof dating is discovering that some relationships
young children, elderly parents, or are traveling tojust aren't meant to work out. Then again, this
see family over the holidays. It is possible torelationship could be one of the most important
connect with a special woman during the holidays,ones of your life, so it is worth taking a chance.
but you should understand that you will beLook for fun ways to celebrate the season
spending less time with her. But starting thattogether. While there may be things you do as a
spark may be the first step, and come January,family, you can do other things with the new
you will have much more time to spend together.woman in your life. Going ice skating or skiing can
You will need to take a relaxed approach to thebe a lot of fun and an ideal way to celebrate the
holiday season when it comes to dating. If youwinter season. Seeing holiday themed movies can
are dating someone new, you may question ifbe fun as well. Do things together that encourage
you should spend Christmas, Hanukah or Kwanzayou to learn about your relationship as well as
with them. On the one hand, it would be nice tocelebrating the season together.
share these important days with someone specialThink about exchanging a gift for the holidays. It
along with your family and loved ones. Then again,can be hard to exchange a "big" holiday gift with
if you are dating someone new, it can be addedsomeone you've been dating a few weeks. Don't
stress to your holiday celebration. Consider invitingput too much pressure on yourself, or your date.
your new friend over for dinner on Christmas EveGet the woman you've been dating a lovely pair
and leaving Christmas as a family day.of gemstone earrings or a CD that she has been
Alternatively, make special plans to see them thetalking about. You want to give her something
weekend following the holidays.small that shows you know what is important to
The holidays are a time of heightened emotion, soher, without adding too much pressure. This is not
go slowly. It would be nice to have a steady loverthe time for expensive gifts. A small, thoughtful
during the holidays. You cannot magically turngift shows that you care about this woman and
someone you have been dating for two weeksthat you wish her a happy holiday season.