| Fans of "The Office" got to watch Pam and Jim | | | | that "the bride and groom are already married" is |
| have two marriage ceremonies: the "official" one | | | | way too big a secret for anyone to keep, so |
| for family and friends, which was preceded by a | | | | your best bet is to share the news with no one. |
| secret one for just the two of them. Secret | | | | Imagine how offended your immediate family |
| wedding ceremonies are not just for television | | | | would be to learn that you got married without |
| characters; this is something that people actually | | | | telling them or inviting them. And think about how |
| do in real life. This is what you should know about | | | | cheated many guests will feel about watching a |
| secret wedding ceremonies, from the why to the | | | | marriage ceremony that is just for show. This is |
| when to the how. | | | | why a couple who chooses to have a secret |
| Let's start with the reason why an engaged | | | | ceremony should keep it between themselves. |
| couple might decide to have a secret wedding | | | | Of course, a private marriage ceremony is a |
| ceremony. The most common one is for the | | | | monumental occasion, even when you plan to |
| same reasons why Pam and Jim had their private | | | | follow it with a large public wedding. It will likely be |
| vows on "The Office": you feel as though the | | | | low-key, but you should still make the effort to |
| wedding day is becoming all about everyone else. | | | | make the event special. The bride should wear a |
| So many couples get roped into having the | | | | pretty dress along with some delicate handcrafted |
| wedding of someone else's dreams that it | | | | bridal jewelry. The dress worn to the secret vow |
| increasingly feels like the real reason for the entire | | | | exchange will likely be much less formal than the |
| day gets lost in the hoopla. Having a private | | | | main wedding gown, perhaps simply a lovely day |
| ceremony with just the two of you can be a | | | | dress in your favorite color. If the handcrafted |
| way to recapture the idea that the whole point of | | | | bridal jewelry you have chosen to wear on the |
| having a wedding is to celebrate the love of the | | | | official wedding day works with your more simple |
| bride and groom as they pledge to spend their | | | | dress, by all means wear it, or opt for a different |
| lives together. | | | | set if it is too opulent for the occasion. Certainly |
| It is also the case that some couples may have | | | | the bride should have a bouquet, and it would be |
| secret ceremonies for practical reasons. Perhaps | | | | nice to hold your ceremony in a location that is |
| one of you lost a job and is suddenly without | | | | beautiful and meaningful to you, whether that is |
| health insurance. A quick marriage to get the | | | | overlooking a gorgeous lake or right in your own |
| person onto their spouse's insurance plan might be | | | | living room. |
| in order. This often occurs when the couple is | | | | A pre-wedding marriage ceremony is a big secret |
| already engaged and in the process of planning a | | | | to keep, but in some cases, it is the perfect way |
| big wedding for all of their family and friends. The | | | | for the bride and groom to have a quiet moment |
| quick trip to city hall to make it official for legal | | | | to reflect on the start of the marriage with all |
| purposes can still be followed by the original | | | | that it entails. When the wedding ceremony is |
| celebration that was planned. | | | | secret, it can be all about the love shared by the |
| When having a private exchange of vows, there | | | | bride and groom, without any focus being pulled |
| are several key things to keep in mind. The most | | | | away from the deeper meaning of the occasion. |
| important one is that if you truly intend to keep it | | | | Most couples who have had secret vows before |
| a secret and let everyone assume that they are | | | | the official wedding have also found that they |
| watching you tie the knot at the big wedding, the | | | | were able to relax and enjoy the big wedding in a |
| secret must be held very closely. The reality is | | | | way that they had never expected. |